Monday, January 30, 2012

"Salute" To My Ladies

This blog goes out to all my beautiful, strong, independent ladies out there. Lately, I have been reminiscing about my decision to move to Italy and how I have met so many other ladies who have made the big move as well. I was asking myself why is it that women find the need to "find themselves" when men don't? I know so many women who have ventured out of their comfort zone, to explore the world, to follow love, to find love, to challenge themselves. It may sound like a cliche but it is a cliche that shows how strong and independent we can be. That even if we may have a moment of uncertainty, a longing for a dream come true, a question about our identity, or the need to fill a void... we follow our instinct and intuition into the unknown rather than running from it.

This blog goes out to all of my fellow lady expats who have followed their hearts into a foreign country and have been able to stay true to themselves and yet also manage to reinvent themselves only to be stronger, wiser and more passionate. Salute!

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

C'e Crisi, C'e Crisi

The phrase of 2011 in Italy was "C'e Crisi, C'e Crisi"(There's Crisis, There's Crisis)... you heard it everywhere... in everyday conversations, at home, on the news, and Striscia La Notizia. I don't know how it was in the States since I wasn't back at all in 2011 but the economic crisis was definitely live and booming here. Unfortunately, with hopes of a new year, fresh start, and the year of the dragon... things have just gotten worse here. Gas prices have sky-rocketed that gas stations have raised the price on gas and now don't even have any more gas - causing pay tolls and everything else to rise in cost as well. On monday, all truckers went on strike throughout Italy. If any trucker tried to get on the autostrada, they were stopped by all the others. And this did happen... one trucker got stopped and his wheels slashed. Another trucker trying to stop a German big-rig even got ran over and killed... tragic... Moreover, since all truckers are on strike, supermarkets and stores are not getting their regular shipments and are dwindling in their stock. It is insane... Of course one event would create this domino effect, but when will it end? It seems like they are digging a deeper and deeper hole into the crisis. It doesn't help that the euro is losing it's value as each day goes by, banks are going bankrupt, financial institutions are charging you 32€ for every 5000€ you have in the bank, more people are losing their jobs and the cost of living just gets higher. Can we really be going into another Great Depression?

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

You Can Take the Girl Out of the City but not the City Out of the Girl

It has been 15 months since I have been back to L.A. and I am feeling it! It's been such an experience, not only living in Italy, but in a small town in Italy. I have realized the good and bad about it... but no matter what, I am and will always be a city girl. Is there something wrong with me? Is there something wrong with me that I can't wait to land at LAX and take in the atmosphere as I step outside... aka... the smog. That I can't wait to sit in traffic, where it is really my only "alone" time and I get to rock out to my music. That I'm dying to be in crowds in the middle of the afternoon instead of deserted streets at 2pm. That I can eat at any time of day I want and the restaurant will be open. I will have lunch at 11am if I am hungry or dinner at 6pm if I want to instead of waiting till 9pm like all the so-called "normal" people here. I can go to the supermarket at night in some warm-ups and not have to worry about bumping into someone or being dressed inappropriately. Sigh... Italy is bellissima but I miss my big city and big city ways.

Of course, when I am back there, there will be things I miss about Italy... but I have never been away from LA for more than 6 months so it is just unacceptable. I hope to see you soon my big, crowded, expensive, smoggy, happening, fun, exciting city. A presto.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Giving Birth in Italia

So it's been almost 6 months since I have given birth and I have been meaning to write about my experience. As I have written before, I was really lucky to have a great OBGYN that I was comfortable with and to be giving birth in a private clinic 5 minutes from home but I wanted to fill you in on my actual hospital experience. So I was admitted and put into a room with 3 other females. I thought that was going to be bad, but given the fact that I was in the hospital for 6 days, it was really nice to have company, and I got along well with the girl next to me. The bad part about it was that when it came to visitors, it was like a madhouse in there and it would be impossible for you to get any rest. There is no control on how many visitors can come and even the visiting hours aren't really followed. So, there were times where there was like 20 people in the room. It was fine at first when I hadn't given birth yet and me and my family would just go downstairs to the lobby to get some air, but after I gave birth, it made it difficult for me or baby to get some peace and quiet.

One of the things that I found most unacceptable were the amenities and bathroom. The shower head was broken so water splattered everywhere, and to make it worse, there was no shower curtain or wall so you were pretty much washing down the entire bathroom. Moreover, they didn't supply toilet paper! We had to bring our own! On that note, we also had to bring our own water and drinks because beverages didn't come with the meal. We were to bring our own pjs or gowns because they don't wear hospital gowns there. And the machine to control baby's heart wasn't stationed next to each patient to control 24 hours, but you were brought to a room two times a day or a portable machine was brought to you to monitor for like 45 minutes. One of the worse things I remember the most, was that it was the middle of summer and beyond hot. The air conditioning wasn't that powerful and at night, the girls preferred to have the window open... which opening the window automatically turned off the air conditioning and also allowed all the mosquitoes come in! There was one morning I woke up with 7 bites... seriously unacceptable in a hospital. And beyond unacceptable to have bad A/C in the middle of summer with a pregnant woman!

Nonetheless, the one thing that bothered me the most is that everyone or almost everyone has C-sections. I think I was the only one who wanted to give birth naturally and there were women who were trying to talk me out of it. Saying it is so much easier with a c-section, this and that. To top it off, I have read articles that the majority of births in Italy are c-sections and doctors push for it so they can earn more money, and especially in the Campania Region where I am... shady right? Another thing that is corrupt with Italia...

So there was good and bad at the hospital I stayed at. Like I stated at the beginning, this was a private clinic, so I have no idea how bad the public hospitals are. Eeek... Of course in any where in the world, you will get the good and bad. The most important thing is that Antonio was born healthy and well.